Before you head off on the search for Mr. Right, you have to take a few moments of self-reflection. More often than not, a relationship will fall apart because you didn’t really know what you were looking for to begin with. If you knew what you wanted, you didn’t know what you had to do or who you had to be. Before finding happiness in another person, we have to achieve it in ourselves. So let’s evaluate how a good woman can get to the right mindset for attracting and keeping a good man.
Step 1: Figure out who you are.
Are you a lover? Gentle and kind? Are you outspoken and wild? You need to make a list of all of your personality traits. Good, bad and everything in between. This will put into perspective everything that combines to make you who you are. Now, look at the list you’ve made. Are there any traits on there that you find undesirable? If so, there’s a good chance your future man might too. Circle all the traits you’d like to change before moving on to step 2. Don’t focus only on your good traits, either. Make sure to include everything. The purpose of this exercise is to help you grow. If you need to, ask a friend for help or get in touch with a past love. This will help you to get the most perspective on how other people see you. Also understand that a real man COULD love a woman without a woman loving herself but its always better for a woman to have an identity of self first.
Step 2: Make a few changes.
While you should never be hung up on your physical assets, you need to look at your emotional ones. If you tend to overreact, you need to work on changing that about yourself. Refer to the circled traits in Step 1. Now you’re going to take action to correct those traits you don’t like. It’s not going to be easy, nor is it going to be instant. Things take time but it will help you when it comes to finding and keeping a good man. If you don’t know where to begin, simply take a deep breath. Look at the traits you’ve circled and find the easiest ones to change. For instance, if you spend too much money you can always learn to budget. It’s not a difficult change to make, but every small change will really make a difference!
Step 3: Start strutting yourself around.
Now that you’re happy with who you are and you’ve made all the changes you wanted to see, you can start looking for that man of your dreams. You don’t need to spend too much time thinking about where you’re going to meet him, or how. Don’t even think about what to say when you do meet him. The best thing you can do is just be yourself. That’s what real men look for in a good single woman anyway. Do you first and the rest will fall into place. Go to the places you love and take part in hobbies you enjoy. Talk to people you want to talk to and smile whenever you feel happy. By doing these things, you will attract someone who sees your inner pride. Someone who will respect the work that you’ve put into yourself. Maybe someone who has done the same work on themselves as well.
There’s no right or wrong way to meet someone though. The key is to be open minded throughout all encounters and just see where it goes. I mean, anybody can always say no on the next date night out. Sometimes a perfect date never leads to a second. It’s a hard pattern to predict and it can leave you second guessing yourself. That’s why you need to be happy with yourself before you can try seeing other people. This way, if everything goes wrong with a date, you know it was something about them and not necessarily about you. You were perfectly confident in who you were and your best first time presentation to them.